Why Porn is Bad for You

This was written by me on Myspace. Wednesday, December 05, 2007


Porn is entertaining, I admit. But too much porn, and too little understanding of what sex actually is causes problems for people in my observation. See, porn (or the porn you're likely to see) is meant to appeal to straight men almost entirely, therefore what men want in sex is acted out in porn without any realism. This creates MAJOR misconceptions because what sex actually is like with two people in a mutual relationship (with no camera rolling) is WAY, WAY different. I won't forget women. Porn creates unrealistic expectations of how things work in bed...

Here are a few things for you to come to terms with:

1) Most women don't really like to be face-fucked.

This is due to obvious reasons. Just because you think this is common practice based on what you see in porn, doesn't make it so. You'll be lucky to ever meet a girl that would let you do this more than once, let alone a girl that would enjoy it.

2) Women don't want cum shot in their face and eyeballs.

Don't let the facials that end porn vids deceive you. The vast majority of women would be grossed out by this, and would probably never want to do anything sexual with you again if you did it unbeknownst to them. Don't expect a girl to moan and writhe as you plaster her with your man juice. In fact, expect a girl to avoid your jizz like it's kryptonite.

3) Most women don't like to gargle cum, nor do they like the taste.

Women who will perform this kind of thing just to please their man are a rare breed. Women who actually enjoy it in and of itself are next to nonexistent.

Once again, since porn is usually centered around appealing to men... this kind of practice is common in porn. It is not common at all in the real world though. Some women who aren't experienced might be open to it at first, but once they try it out they will probably be repulsed by it so much that they might get angry at you for just proposing it again in the future.

4) It's not all that uncommon to meet a girl that will like giving head. However, don't expect any of the above 3 acts, don't expect them to be frequent or long lasting either.

Blowjobs are usually a reward in the minds of most women, not status quo. That is how women work, they aren't going to consider it necessary or think that they owe it to you unless you do something worthy. Blowjobs might be frequent in the early stages of some relationships. However, once she no longer needs to impress you, she's going to use it against you when the relationship does its inevitable about-face and you need to start impressing her from then forward.

Blow jobs are basically an act of submission, girls who do it often and for the span of an entire relationship are usually very submissive in nature. NOT all girls are like this. Some girls just don't want to put their lips anywhere near your crotch.

5) Chances are that women who want sexual gratification would rather use a vibrator by themselves than go near your wang.

This is true. A lot of guys will say "nuh uh, I know I can do it right blah blah blah" but as is well known, women are scandalous liars. If you're awful in the sack, they will pretend you are better than you really are to boost your self esteem.

Some women often separate sex with their men from their own sexual fantasies entirely. In that case, having sex with you is like bonding to them, akin to cuddling or holding hands. In that case, if they want to be satisfied sexually they don't need you and often you can't even provide what they want because your understanding of how women work is hindered; both by the fact that women are deceptive about things, as well as the fact that your own ego is in the way. Some women however, do prefer the meat over the plastic/Marble/rubber/Synthetic Skin/Etc. But everyone is different.

If all you think about sex consists of sucking and fucking, then you're going to be disappointed, and so will she.

6) Chances are, any woman you ever might have sex with doesn't prioritize sex like you, doesn't intend for it or expect it to be the same way you expect it to be.

Men and women interpret sex differently for the most part. Many women start having sex because they think they are supposed to do it, rarely do women initiate a sexual relationship for their own purposes like men do. If you expect super kinky sex over a protracted period of time... then you better look for the rare super freak, which will take a lot of trial and error.
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I wish it weren't true and I hate to break it to you people. But if you use porn as a pretext for a future romantic rendezvous ... then you'll be in for a rude awakening. If your entire perception of how sex works is based on your limited knowledge. i.e. your experience with watching porn, then beware.

If you have experience to the contrary... you are lucky. If you're still young and inexperienced, and women themselves tell you something to the contrary, don't be fooled. Chances are they are lying and only say those things for attention. Things will be different if/when the panties drop.

I know, it hurts.

It's ok to cry.


For women:

I can say the same thing to women. Not every guy out there wants to put his tongue anywhere near your clitoris even alone your crotch area, especially if you don't take care of yourself (SHAVING). Not all men have huge penis, neither do they have amazing stamina to stay up all night. Even less do they have awesome built bodies that just make you so moist. Beware, porn can make your perception fail in real life. I'm not going write alot for the women cause it's kinda already up there in the six reasons.


I hope you had a good read and you learned something =)



Thiago Zanatta

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